Five Ways To Take Back Control

Take Back Control

Take Control of Your Journey In Life

One of the things most of my clients have in common is this feeling they are forced into reactive mode almost all of the time.

This loss of control is pervasive. But it’s not real.

You read that correctly.

Their perception is not reality.

What these folks perceive as a lack of control is actually a lack of self-esteem.

Here are five ways you can take back control (and in the process, build your self-esteem).

Make People Earn Your Time

You wouldn’t walk around giving away hundred dollar bills would you?

So why do you regularly agree to meetings you know, in advance, will be a waste of your time?

Why do you allow yourself to get roped into doing things that take your most precious asset – your time – and treat it like a disposable diaper?

Start with the word “no.” If someone asks for your time, simply say:

“I don’t have time budgeted for this meeting this week. But if you send me a quick summary of the conversation you’d like to have, I will try to fit it into my agenda soon.”

Say NO to unproductive meetings.

Yeah. I know that sounds a bit odd. But it sounds odd only because nobody says it.

Quit giving away the one thing you will never be able to get back.

Do Something That Scares The Crap Out Of You

All of us have strengths. Think about yours. What do you do really well? Now think about the most extreme application of that strength. Can you go there?


You are a great writer. You love to write. Can you enter an essay contest? Can you draft an Op-Ed and send it to the New York Times or to the Wall Street Journal?

More personal example:

I am a good public speaker. I speak to corporate audiences over 50 times each year. I wanted to really challenge myself to connect with an audience so, for several months earlier this year; I tried my hand at stand-up comedy.

This scared the hell out of me. But it also helped me learn how to connect with an audience on a whole new level.

I grew outside of my comfort zone and bolstered one of my key strengths.

Dwell On The Positive

All of us tend to focus on the one thing that doesn’t go perfectly.

It’s amazing.

Thousands of things go well for us every day. Yet we dwell on the one or two things that blow up.

Tonight, before you go to sleep, force yourself to think about five things that went well today. It can be as simple as:

“I made the perfect bowl of oatmeal this morning.”

The idea is to catch yourself doing things correctly.

Focus on the positive and be grateful for things going well.

Embrace Abundance

You are only one telephone call away from doubling your income.

You’re only one meeting away from catapulting your career and your law firm to the next level.

All you need to do is figure out who the person should be on the other end of the phone or sitting across from you in the boardroom.

Once you figure that out, ask everyone you know to make an introduction. Write that person letters. Make telephone calls to him/her. Find a way to add value to his/her life and do not stop until you connect.

Learn Something New Everyday

Education has been the key to freedom for an eternity. It can lift people out of poverty and it can create a balance of power among nations.

Yet the minute we graduate from our formalized education program, most of us stop focusing on mental growth.

Don’t let this happen to you.

Seek out knowledge. Be intellectually curious.

Ask good questions. Read something. Listen.

The common thread among all of these tasks is ACTION. You must aggressively ACT to take back control of your life, your business and your career.

You are the architect of your future.

Take steps to make your vision for it a reality.

Here are some additional resources to help you take back control of your business and your life:

Claim Your Territory

Focus on your strengths and leverage them. Find other people to help you supplement your weaknesses. You will always struggle just to achieve mediocrity in areas of weaknesses but you can quickly achieve mastery in areas of strength.

The Secret of the Action Log

If you want to master guilt-free productivity, keep track of the things you accomplish each day. This video shows you how.

You’re Blowing It

Keep your personal baggage out of your business activities. I almost forgot to do that and it cost me.

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