How To Bounce Back

You lost an important client.

You got fired.

You made a huge mistake that cost you a treasured relationship.

Maybe you’re going through a rough financial time

Or worse. Something happened in your personal life and you’ve hit rock bottom.

All of us have setbacks in our businesses (and our lives) and our ability to recover from those setbacks is what determines our level of success.

Here are some ways you can become more resilient:

Take Action: Action beats apathy

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Get up and do something. It doesn’t matter what you do. Just get moving. Sitting still, thinking about the adversity you’ve experienced is the worst thing for you.

Throw yourself into a project. Bury yourself in your work. Volunteer. Dress like a successful person and get out of the house and do something.

Find The Silver Lining

When you are in pain, it is difficult to see past the issue that’s right in front of you.

You must.

Your mental health and, many times, your financial recovery, is dependent upon you finding even some small positive element in this horrible situation.

The act of seeking a positive nugget in a negative situation helps to reset your focus and it gets you out of your negative loop of doom.

Believe Your Own Press

One of the reasons I ask my clients to collect a new testimonial from a happy client every week is specifically for this purpose. Yes, testimonials help make a case to people who may want to use your services…but they also help us convince ourselves we are valuable.

Surround Yourself With Humor

Laughter really is the best medicine. Watch comedy videos. Listen to comedy in the car. Surround yourself with friends and family who regularly make you laugh.

Give yourself permission to smile, then to giggle, then to laugh hysterically when something is funny.

There is no social requirement to go into mourning over a mistake. You can AND YOU SHOULD move on as quickly as possible. Do not worry about keeping up somber appearances. Move on.

Getting up after you’ve been knocked down should embolden you.   It should strengthen you. It should help you grow.

Remember:

True security comes from taking comfort in your ability to bounce back from adversity.

Here is the transcript to this episode of Four Minute Fixation:

How To Bounce Back

You’re down, but you’re not out. Want to discover how you can bounce back? Come on with me.

Hi. It’s Dave Lorenzo, and today we’re fixated on resilience. This is the most important quality any entrepreneur, business owner, or lawyer in private practice can have if you want to be successful over the long time. Resilience is critical, and today we’re focused on how you can bounce back from any issue that you’re facing, whether it’s a catastrophic lose of a client, or you made a big, big mistake and it’s going to cost you some money, or you may have an issue in your personal life and you need to figure out how to recover from that. Today, we’re going to talk about the four things you can do immediately to help you bounce back, to help you become more resilient in your life and in your career.

Before we get to that, I want to remind you to:

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Let’s get down to it. How can you become resilient? Today, we’re focused on these four ways for you to bounce back, regardless of what you’re facing. Number one, action beats apathy. You need to take some action. Sitting around your house, feeling sorry for yourself, eating Doritos all day long, or eating those Cheetos on your couch all day long, that’s not going to help you. Get out and do something. It doesn’t matter if you’re volunteering. If you’ve lost your job, you can go out and volunteer. It doesn’t matter what you’re doing, just be productive, and get out and move around. You got to take some action. The longer you sit in your house and make yourself miserable, the more you’ll fixate on the things that are wrong, and not on the things that are right. Take some action. Go out and do some good.

Oftentimes I hear people look forward to their retirement, and while they’re looking forward to their retirement, it’s great, because it motivates them. Then they actually retire, and what do they do? They sit around their house. They get heavy. Their health deteriorates. They focus on their health too much. The next thing you know, it’s the end of their life.

Don’t let that happen to you. Action beats apathy. When you’re feeling down, when you need to recover, when you need to be resilient, when you need to bounce back, make sure you get out and get going. Do some things that allow you to use your talent.

Number two, find the silver lining. Every situation, every possible situation, every situation there ever was, every situation there ever will be, has something good about it. You need to look for that. It’s not actually finding the silver lining that’s valuable, it’s not actually finding the good that comes from every situation that’s valuable, it’s the act of looking. You put yourself in a positive mindset. When you force yourself to say, “What good will come from this? What good is going to come from this issue that I’ve developed? The things that have happened in my life, what good is going to come from this adversity,” when you’re thinking like that, you’re focused on the positive, and that is what’s helpful.

Number three, believe your own press. If you’ve hung around me for any length of time, if you’ve followed these Four Minute Fixation video shows for any length of time, you know I love testimonials. As a business leader, you should be out getting testimonials. Get at least a testimonial every week from a happy client, from someone who has done business with you, from someone in the community who knows you. You got to get a testimonial, a testimonial about you personally, a testimonial about your business and what you’ve done for someone. This is the time, when you’re experiencing some adversity, this is the time for you to read and review those testimonials. This is the time for you to believe your own press. You need a boost, go to the people who you’ve helped over the years. Look to your clients, ask them. If you don’t have any testimonials, call some clients. Ask them what you’ve done right. Ask them what they appreciate about you. This will make you feel better, and you’ve got to believe that it’s true.

Things are never as bad as they seem, and things are never going as good as you think they are at any given time. That’s how you keep yourself on an even keel. Things are never as bad as they seem. You’re better than you think you are. Talk to the people who know you, like you, trust you. Get testimonials from them. That will help you bounce back.

Number four, finally, it really is funny. Surround yourself with humor. This is one of the most uncomfortable things you can do, but you’ve got to give yourself permission to laugh. There’s no period of mourning that’s required when you screw up. You don’t have to force yourself to be a shut in, to not leave your house, to keep the shades drawn. Get out and laugh. Enjoy yourself. Watch comedy videos. Listen to comedy CDs. Listen to comedy on the radio. Download comedy onto your electronic devices that you carry with you. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh.

First, you give yourself permission to smile. Then you give yourself permission to chuckle. Then you give yourself permission to flat out laugh out loud. I will tell you, this is one of the best ways that you can recover from a difficult situation is by giving yourself permission to laugh, and, regardless of the situation, you don’t have to wait. Society does not impose norms on you. You set the norms for society, so if you made a big mistake twenty minutes ago, cost you a hundred thousand dollars or more, it’s okay to laugh right now. It’s okay to laugh it off. It’s healthy for you mentally to use your humor to help you recover.

Remember what I say. One of the key phrases I repeat over and over again to my clients when I coach them in a one-on-one setting, is right here.

True security comes from taking comfort in your ability to bounce back from adversity.

True security comes from taking comfort in your ability to bounce back from adversity. You can have millions of dollars in the bank, and you could lose it tomorrow. If you’re comfortable about being able to bounce back from adversity, you really do have true security in your life.

That’s what I want you to fixate on today. Take four minutes, take four minutes right now, today, and fixate on your resilience.

What are you going to do based on the video that we’ve shared with you today to make yourself more resilient?

I’m Dave Lorenzo, and this has been Four Minute Fixation. We’ll see you next time.

Here are three more resources you can use to help keep you in the right frame of mind:

How To Recover From A Big Mistake

Everyone makes mistakes. This video demonstrates how you can recover when you make a bog one.

How To Be Taken Seriously

You want people to believe in you. You want people to refer you business. What do you do to influence that kind of behavior? This episode of Four Minute Fixation demonstrates how you can.

Bonus Video: How To Overcome Loss Of Business And Sales Rejection

Rejection stinks. It’s terrible. This episode of Four Minute Fixation will help you take the sting out of that horrible feeling.